June 2019 Newsletter
THE PATH TO WHOLENESS...
We get calls and emails regularly from women with advanced prolapse who are struggling to believe that my Whole Woman methods are capable of actually stabilizing and reversing their condition and are looking for assurance.
Their questions are legitimate and no matter how modest or severe your prolapse may be, you may have felt the same question arise in your mind.
You have probably heard me talk many times about experimentation and listening to your body as the keys to self-care. Let me explain the reasoning that will help answer the question, “Will the Whole Woman methods work for me?”
First, let’s review the process of experimentation. It starts with a hypothesis, that two or more things, events, or processes are related, that one influences or gives rise to the other.
The nature of hypothesis is that it is a speculation. If we knew for certain that X results in Y like changing your posture stabilizes and reverses prolapse, we wouldn’t need to run the experiment. Since we can’t know for certain what the outcome of the experiment will be, we need to let go of worrying about the outcome.
When we’re talking about prolapse, this is not easy because stabilizing and reversing prolapse is a very pressing matter.
But what a scientist does since she can’t know the outcome of the experiment, is focus her attention on the integrity of the experimental process.
Has she eliminated all possible variables that might make the results of the experiment ambiguous? Has she controlled the conditions as much as possible? Is she measuring and documenting the experiment thoroughly so she is confident in the results?
Scientists are taught how to do this. But those of us who are not scientists and who are emotionally attached to the outcome, find it difficult to conduct the experiment rigorously.
But these realities do not alter the fact that when we take on the Whole Woman work, we need to approach it in the spirit of experimentation. That suggests the importance of educating ourselves.
We routinely communicate with women who have my materials but who have not internalized that prolapse is a symptom of pelvic misalignment, that it is retraining our habitual posture that actually stabilizes and reverses prolapse.
Yes, we see what we want to see and an exercise program is easier to assimilate than realizing that from the time we sit up in bed in the morning until we lie back down at night, we need to be doing the postural work. And allowing ourselves quality rest as we need it throughout the day as our bodies adjust to the new posture is equally important.
The fact of the matter is that I have total confidence in the anatomy of prolapse and the validity of “change the posture, change the prolapse.” I have for decades now put this into practice in my own life and successfully controlled my own uterine prolapse, as have thousands of women around the world.
But at the individual level, whether or not a woman will be successful in managing her prolapse really depends on how seriously and conscientiously she undertakes the experiment.
To what extent has she let go of worrying about the outcome and is focused on executing the experiment thoroughly? To what extent has she been serious about educating herself about the root cause of the problem?
To what extent has she understood the need for seriously undertaking the retraining of her body from decades of unfortunate postural habits (not her fault) into her natural conformation in order for her body to improve her prolapse symptoms?
Is she keeping a log or journal to track her progress and help her learn under what circumstances it is easier for her to be attentive to her posture and when is her attention drawn away from her posture work? Does she endeavor to quantify her own degree of prolapse day to day to observe and identify any trend line of improvement?
There is a phenomenon in all of nature called the normal distribution. The chart below illustrates this.
What this means is that at one end of the distribution, there are those women who just instantly understand the Whole Woman work and quickly get definitive results.
At the other end of the spectrum, are those women who just can’t seem to figure it out or just can’t be bothered to try, and who either continue to suffer or opt for the surgical "solution".
Between the extremes are the bulk of women who experience more or less success with the work.
I have to acknowledge that I have a blind spot.
After the years of intense research I put into solving the prolapse problem, once I found the key, implementing the solution was easy for me. I was on the left side of the distribution above. So my bias has been that other women will take to the work with the same passion, commitment, and skill that I did.
I am clear that I can’t save every woman with prolapse, but in recent years I have found myself increasingly trying to find ways to shift the distribution to the left, so more women are getting results.
One of the ways to accomplish this is to focus on the process rather than the outcome, to be thorough in doing the work, both in education and practice.
While I am very confident of the outcome of the experiment, other women cannot be until they have validated the work for themselves. Faith in the work and belief that you will be successful with it are a double edged sword. While they can provide motivation to take on and persevere in the work, they are no substitute for thorough execution.
Perhaps the most important shift in awareness is that the Whole Woman work is not a quick fix, then back to business as usual. It means making changes in how you stand, sit, walk, run, lift, and carry for the rest of your life. That’s a lot to assimilate, but it is the truth.
I encourage you to take a look at the normal distribution above and ask yourself where you see yourself on the curve, and what you can do to improve your outcome.
If you have questions, take advantage of the Whole Woman forum. If there is something I can do personally to help, please reach out to my office.
One of the insidious qualities of prolapse, incontinence, and chronic hip and knee pain is that we get used to them. We have a tendency to institutionalize the limitations they impose on our lives.
These limitations diminish us and constrain the value we are here in the world to deliver.
I encourage you to focus on the gifts your life brings to the planet and the other human beings with whom you share your life journey. And relentlessly pursue eradication of any limitations that inhibit your ability to share those gifts.
And let us know if there is anything we can do to help.